Monday, Aug 4 - 10:39 PM
I have no complaints right now about anything. All makes
sense. All is well. I love learning new things and that keeps
happening, so I really don't have anything to complain about
Life is Good! AND getting better. I would have to say I have
a lot to be Grateful for and I remind myself to thank my Higher
Power for that one constantly--which I do. And so it is.
Tuesday, Aug 5 - 08:44 PM
I am so glad I am finally over my people-pleasing nature that I
have carried with me for almost all of my life. It is a
behavior that I just did not know how to avoid.
I know it has been a low self-esteem issue with me, but my
self- esteem is finally out of the valley now so taking action
on the things that are most appropriate instead of wigging out
from fear of what criticism they will garner is much easier for
me to do now.
I finally realized I can not please all the people all the time
and no matter how hard I try not to be, I am going to be
sandpaper to the Soul of some if I am going to be authentic in
my life. I find that it is unavoidable if I am going to
diligently stay on track and do what is appropriate for those I
care about. Some will like it and some won't. That's just the
way it is--so be it.
Wednesday, Aug 6 - 02:05 PM
As a child, it was very important to me to seek the approval of
my parents, peers and community. Some things never change and
that behavior did not change for many years.
One day, I decided there must be something wrong with this
picture. I found I was doing a great job of making everyone
else happy, and I noticed I was taking care of me last. All of
a sudden, that did not make much sense to me so I decided I
would be more authentic if I was living my life for me.
With more of a "me" focus, I wasn't spending my life being
influenced by everyone outside of me. According to Keith
Ayers, an excellent trainer from Australia, living my life with
so much outside influence is called object referral
instead of self-referral which is living from within.
Self-referral is where it's at so that's where I am today and
intend to stay there to continue to live a richer life.
Friday, Aug 8 - 06:43 PM
I find that listening is an art and that I have the choice of
responding to someone or not. Whether I do or don't depends on
their level of kindness. I used to think that I had a
responsibility to respond to all things said. It didn't occur
to me that responding is not a requirement to being polite.
Being polite is related to authenticity. I find that being
polite to me is drawing boundaries for people who step over the
lines of no kindness, bullying, being disrespectful and down
right rude. I have in the past wanted to be respectful by
responding to people, but now I find that some have not earned
that right from me and that's ok.
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